Worry, as Leo Buscaglia says, doesn't rob tomorrow of its sorrow but only saps today of its joy. Often our worries are a product of our own imagination. For example when our spouse hasn't called yet, we imagine negative scenarios "there was an accident... the plane was delayed or crashed... is he or she seeing someone?" and so on. We get worried and upset over things that have not even happened! We live in fear and believe in various outcomes as the answer. Belief, by the way, is accepting as true what has not yet been proven. Why do we do this to ourselves? Questioning this is a start. Awareness will help you act differently, you'll be more alert and catch your mind going down that path and learn to simply - stop.
Our mind is capable of great imagination, instead of letting it become hostage to thoughts that agitate you and leave you stressed out and worried, use that imagination toward creative projects. Being busy is one way to stop the agitated monkey mind. Another way is to redirect your mind, step outside yourself and analyze your reactions to whatever is going on at that moment. The irrational egocentric mind will fight back but take a deep breath, don't give up and start again - redirect your mind to the present. By quieting your mind you'll be able to relax and think more clearly, and you'll return to reasoning rather than reacting to a situation. The goal is to avoid unnecessary suffering which often comes with senseless worrying.
So when worry begins to creep up:
1. Stop.
2. Separate your-Self from the agitation.
3. Take the deep breath.
4. Refocus your thoughts to the present.
5. Seek the Light, and remember the following words:
Do not anticipate trouble or worry about what may never happen. Keep in the sunlight.
~Benjamin Franklin
2 comments:
Worrying just doesn't do any good and I love that quote, good one.
Il semble que vous soyez un expert dans ce domaine, vos remarques sont tres interessantes, merci.
- Daniel
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